All is calm in our house right now. Well, as calm as it can get anyway. I just returned from Lake Barkley in Cadiz, KY exhibiting at the Mid-South Leadership conference. I was fortunate to catch Mass on Monday, the Feast of St. Martin de Porres, where I heard a wonderful homily on humility. Of course, St. Martin was a wonderful example of humility, doing menial tasks and serving all around him with great love. The reading from St. Paul spoke of humility, "Do nothing out of selfishness...humbly regard others as more important than yourselves..." The priest shared that as leaders, as coaches and teachers and parents, we want our children to do well. We want them to win, we want them to have good grades, we want them to be the best and we want to be able to brag on them. Who doesn't? But in the end, are we not, just a little, really bragging on ourselves...the good job we did as the coach or the teacher or the parent? Aren't we apt to think, look what I did? Look what my kid can do because of all the time I have spent on him. And in the end, does any of it really matter except that he has learned the two most important things we are to teach our children...Love of God and Love of Neighbor? At the end of it all, does he or she know Jesus Christ? Is he or she closer to Him in some way?
This was the perfect message for me at the perfect time. We have just finished volleyball season and are about to enter basketball season. I love to win. I am way too competitive. Did I say Way? I mean Way! I cannot stand to see any of my children struggle on any court. When they do, I prefer to sit by myself in the corner of the stands. I do not want to hear the comments. I can see just fine. My children on the other hand, just love to play. They are not in it for the kill. They are out there to have fun with their friends, playing a game they love to play until it becomes too stressful and competitive. I am trying to be more like them because at the end of the season, really, what does it all matter but the way we treat one another, the way we accept our wins and our loses? That is truly the way I want to feel and I would be better at it, if we could just win all the time! But, we can't. We are not going to the big leagues. We are learning to get along with others and take care of our bodies. We are learning to work as a team. We are training for the long haul for which it would be good that in the end, we know more about loving God and loving others.
So, while all is calm in our sports world, I am in training for the next season, which is approaching quickly. Humility is not my strong suit. I have a lot to learn and Fr. gave me plenty to think about for the off season. This really has nothing to do with me. It has everything to do with my children.
Win or lose, at the end of the season, at the end of the day, of the month, of the year, do they know more about Jesus Christ?