"To know whom to avoid is a great means of saving our souls." St. Thomas Aquinas
My listening journal is filled with awesome little gems of advice. This particular one came to me on the heels of a discussion about trying to teach our children the difference between being kind to and including everyone and holding on to a friendship to the point of hurting our relationship with God. Those friendships are not true if they are causing us to do wrong, as in to talk about others or take time away from our families.
I've said it here before and I'll say it again, relationships are a lot of work. Life is just hard. Knowing who to hang around can be a major decision. People talk about one another and damage relationships and reputations without even thinking twice about what they are doing. Seems to be turning into a habit.
Let me just say one thing here that I know you all already know. If someone is talking to you about another, they are talking to them about you. Somehow, some way, we have to stop the madness. Gossip is all over the media. Many shows have made it popular. Children imitate. They imitate the media and they imitate their parents. I think the best thing to do for all of us is to step away. No, we cannot save these people. We are not God. We will get caught up in the trap. It can be a great source of entertainment. Trust me. I join it or fight it every day. But today, Thomas Aquinas says it best. Save yourself. Save your soul. Know whom to avoid.